Dating a woman with a kid
While it may or may not be rational, you need to make sure she knows your word is bond and can rely on you.
Many guys (or rather the friends of many guys) may say this is the biggest “trap” to watch out for.
Just don’t make assumptions and tread slowly and carefully.
You have a lot in common with this person, they’re witty and entertaining, they’re sexy AF and you have a sneaking suspicion the sex is gonna be good. You know they have kids, but even though you aren’t really a kid person, nothing’s going to harsh your buzz when you’re drugged up on their awesomeness. Once upon a time, I began to date a man with two children.
Instead, say to her “So I was thinking about what to do this weekend, and what about after you feed Katy her breakfast and the sitter comes over, we go to the State Fair for the day?
We could go on some rides, take pictures of the animals to show Katy later, eat a lot, and play some games.
In its simplest form, it means men only see women as saints or prostitutes, and there is no in-between.
So a man will see a mother, and he’ll think she only wants tender touches, vanilla sex, and has a low sex drive.
Not only is she not going to subject her little one(s) to the Mountain squishing Oberon’s skull with his bare hands, but any show that’s on at 9 p.m. After playing, washing, feeding, getting into bed, cleaning up the kitchen, getting her back into bed (seriously, why is it so hard to make someone sleepy go to sleep), reading her a story, singing a song, and taking a shower before her own bedtime, the last thing she wants to do is stay up late watching something about a child being murdered, even if Joffrey was a sadistic dick.
This isn’t to say that you’ll be pushed to the side, but your ego has to be strong enough to be able to share her attention. How you deal with these interruptions will endear you more to her than even the date may have!
Don’t ever put her in a position where it’s “me or the kid.” Even one of my fellow female dating coaches started dating a guy with a kid and then complained to me that the kid always got precedence over her. Maybe you met her out with the kid, or maybe you only know the kid through social media pictures.
That way, I can win you and her some prizes to take back, and we should be able to get you back for her bedtime.” The fact that not only did you do some thinking and planning, but you also made sure her daughter was front and center to those plans will go a long way in proving what a great man you are.
Even for single adults, there’s just too much good TV on now to be able to be keep up with everything.